I have written about inmates in prison during the holidays for a number of years and how it affects not only the inmate, but the inmate’s family and friends. Nothing has changed about that. It can be an extremely stressful and depressing time for everyone involved. Yet another year that your loved one is away, locked up. They feel the disappointment and grief their families feel. The family feels lonely and wishes things were different.
I don’t have an easy answer for this. All I can say is that you have to make the best of it. Be sure to write or visit and try not to place any blame or convey disappointment. I know you feel it. I’ve been there for many, many years. I’ve felt the void. I’ve felt the sadness. I’ve seen my son take his anger out and end up in solitary for Christmas.
For most, it will end eventually and your loved one will come home to spend the holidays. I know about this too, as this is the first year in fourteen years that my son will be spending the holidays with his family. We are grateful for the fact he finally made up his mind to rejoin society, be sober and live life on the outside. He will not go back this time.
I am also grateful to Hope for Prisoners and Jon Ponder, the founder and CEO, based in Las Vegas. This reentry program gave him his life back. This program helped him get a good job. They gave him the skills, determination and opportunity to succeed. They gave him the support and love he needed to succeed.
You can contact them at http://www.hopeforprisoners.org.
I’m also grateful to Civil Werx in Las Vegas for taking a chance on him and providing him the opportunity for a job… not just a job, but a great job. Because of my son doing a wonderful job for them, they will now give others a second chance.
There is hope. Keep it in your heart.